How did feeling unheard actually help to have your need for shared--reality met?
Perhaps as a child you learned that feeling unheard was the only way to have shared--reality need met. But now you are an adult and you get to choose how you meet your own needs. How can you meet shared--reality need without experiencing the trigger?
Get creative.
Congratulations, you (compassionately) made your trigger your bitch.
You’ve developed new strategies for meeting your needs that center you as the hero of your life.