If you find yourself saying something like that, try to help yourself be heard more compassionately by saying instead:
I feel angry.
I feel scared.
I feel powerless.
I feel thwarted.
I feel frustrated.
And here are some needs you could ask for:
I need autonomy.
I need empowerment.
I need trust.
I need equality.
I need freedom.
I need connection.
I need authenticity.