If you find yourself saying something like that, try to help yourself be heard more compassionately by saying instead:
I feel in pain.
I feel scared.
I feel anxious.
I feel frustrated.
I feel humiliated.
I feel angry.
I feel embarrassed.
And here are some needs you could ask for:
I need understanding.
I need acknowledgement.
I need recognition.
I need accountability.
I need respectful communication.